Tracing God's Hand in our Lives- Adjust your Focus

Many times it seems that we can't trace God's hand or see Him at work in our lives, especially when it choatic and cluttered with drama.  We pray earnestly for God to work on our behalf for so many things. We pray diligently over and over again over the larger & immediate things in which we need done. While the smaller, not so immediate issues gets prayed for once or twice and we keep it moving.

I want to encourage you today!

 There has been many large issues that needed God's immediate attention in my life. I've prayed till the brakes have fell of my prayer mobile, if you get my drift.  However two months ago there was an issue I was having with my 4 year old daughter at school. She has a short attention span, however smart as whip but only applies herself when  she is forced to do something  She wan't applying herself on writing her name.  Her teacher brought it to my attention that if we didn't get her to focus on doing that, she wouldn't be able to enter Kindergarten. So of course I up my time spent working with her. I hired my cousin to tutor her and the rest of my kids so she wouldn't feel like she was doing something wrong. Lastly, I prayed over her and asked God to quicken her attention span and work ethic for learning in school.

Today, I was dropping my kids off to school and noticed something all together different about my daughter. Every morning I send her to wash her hands by herself, hang up her belonging and walk in to class to sign her name. I send her by herself so that I can accompany my son to do the same things. I have been doing this consistently for  about the same amount of time that I have known about the writing issue.

This morning I was coming out of  my son's class to go sign her in and she was walking out the bathroom headed to hang her things up. For the first time, I saw my daughter in the light of being responsible and I didn't realize that I trusted her to do  what I had been asking her to do. I stood off to the side and just smiled at my baby being a big girl. I walked up to her and asked her to give me five for being a big girl. We walked into class I was signing her in and she walked over to sign her name. Without my assistance, and even in all the commotion of people saying good morning to her she wrote her full name and it was in the right size for the box and readable. Her teacher then said, "Mrs. Jones, Dionne is doing excellent!" I walked out of her class to my car, just realizing how I had forgotten that I had petitioned God's help with this area and just that moment I was able to trace God's hand at work for me.

It's very easy to allow the large things to overshadow the smaller things that are not so immediate in our lives. However I learned a valuable lesson today. As sure as I was that God was going to do what I needed for my daughter, I need to be just as sure for the larger things.  It's hard to trace God hands when we aren't looking in the right places. Blessings and Miracles are bestowed upon us daily and many times we don't see them because we are  focused on the things that have yet to be done and may possibly seem to be impossilble.


I just want to encourage you to keep your ears and eyes open. God never stops working, and His hand never stops moving. If we can't see Him moving & and answering prayers in our lives then just maybe we are focused on the wrong stuff. When driving we are taught to never stay focused on one thing too long, if we plan to make it to our destination safely. As such, is the same for the things in our personal lives. Take a glance at your problems and situations, adjust what you can, change what you can and trust that God heard you and has already begun executing a plan for your rescue. The big issues may still be big issues, however if the little issues are being worked on its only a matter of time before God begans to answers our major prayer requests.  Keep in mind the big issues more than likely didn't become a big issue overnight, therefore the response and solution may not be done overnight either. Hang in there, and don't give up. Help is on the way.

Music the Way God Intended...Introducing Favor's Voice

So, everyone knows that Rofasho supports just about everyone who doing something positive. That's just what I do and enjoy doing. There is nothing like knowing someone sees and understand your vision and life purpose, more importantly will take a stand to support it. This year, LaToya Turrentine dropped her first CD, "I Am Favor's Voice". I am seriously smiling as I write this. Only because I have known Latoya for lil' over 10 years.  I pretty much watched her blossom into the power house of anointing that she is today. When I met LaToya she was a young lady with integrity and today she a grown woman with integrity (LoL).  I have watched this girl stand her ground for the Kingdom of God, never wavering; and if she did I didn't witness it.

It's with no suprise that her first Cd is pack with so much anointing. It's not your typical Gospel CD. There are serveral genre's of music present on this CD, from Gospel to R&Bish feel. In my opinon, this ablum would probably best describe the way music was intended to be by God. It's not churchy, but its music with a purpose and it reeks relationship not religion. It pleases me so much to listen to the young lady I watch develope into a such a anoited woman of God. I have so much respect for this lady.

I encourage you to purchase this CD.  You may purchase the CD on ITunes, or Amazon. I promise you its worth more than you will pay for it.

Just Wondering How We Could Change The World

I wonder what the world would be like if every woman stop flaunting their bodies and starting flaunting the knowledge of who they are in Christ. 

I wonder what the world would be like if every person knew that marriage is a covenant between them and God. 

I wonder what the world would be like if every person kept the word they spoke. 

I wonder what chain of events would occur if every man opened doors for women, filled their gas tanks, and kept them out of harms way. 

I wonder would it be easier for the wife to respect her husband if the above happened all the time. I wonder what the world would be life if the wife respected her husband regardless if he did those things or not.

I wonder what chain of events would occur if every husband truly loved their wife as Christ loves the Church and actually treated her like a queen. 

I wonder what would happen if everyone was quick to forgive and even quicker to forget

I wonder what our youth's future would turn out if adults actually acted like adults 

I wonder what our youth 's future would be like if every parent stood up for the responsibility of having children 

I wonder what our youth's future would be like if in every home love and respect was at work.

I wonder what the church would be like if everyone did their part and walked in their call and became obedient to the word of God. 

I wonder how powerful could the church be, if we would stop fronting and address the issues, habits and addictions that go on in the pulpit. 

I wonder what would God do for this land if we actually didn't have to beg ppl to worship Him in Church. 

I wonder what what happen if we all got focused on the calls that we ALL have on our lives. How many ppl would have time for sin if we were really focused for what God was trying to do through us? 

Man, I wonder........ 

If anything in this note pokes out at you, take a chance and give it a try for 21 days. 

Hang in There

Hey Folks, I apologize for the long wait for another blog. So much has happened that most definitely validates the name of this blog. Please hang in there with me. As time progresses I will be at more liberty to speak freely about some things that I think will truly help many women and men.

Its been well over a months since I last wrote a blog. Since then my husband has preached his first sermon and it was great experience to see him walking in his call. I know many of you are saying "Ro, when you next" and in due time. It's not quite my time yet. However I can say that the work that He is performing in me is blowing my mind.

I just want to encourage you guys to hang in there. I know life tends to beat us up especially when we don't have a grip our personal decision making. But let me reassure you every decision we make comes with pricey consequences, just make sure you can afford the consequence before you execute your decision. We have to began thinking things through and become more intentional about the things we do. This is how we will press towards the mark more effectively. We have to be intentionally doing what is necessary and intentionally not doing what will make us fall.

I love you guys, hang in there with me. This blog is sure to become a help to  many in due time.


Love you,

Rofasho.

An Unforgettable Weekend of Love

March 4th thru the 6th, was my church's Marriage Retreat.  We traveled to the Great Wolf Lodge in Traverse City, Mi. We stayed Friday thru Sunday Morning. For the low price of $400 per couple, we received: 2 nights lodging, 2 dinners and 2 breakfasts (buffets), Water Park Pass for the duration of our stay, 3 workshops and course materials. Yea, all of that for $400! Yet the amount that we paid, would never come close to what we learned and experienced with our spouses.

I will be honest, I had my reserves about the retreat. I was excited about going and optimistic about what we would learn in our workshops. However the itinerary  just seemed so tight. We really was doing something every moment that we were there. So immediately, my husband and I had already planned not to take advantage to every workshop. Yep, that didn't happen. Who was I kidding, I rarely ever go against the grain of obedience when it comes to someone asking me to be apart of something. I'm glad i didn't change the course of what I have done all my life.

We got to the location about 9pm, just in time to eat dinner. However, we had missed the icebreakers and events for the night. So we ate and mingled with everyone for little bit and my husband and I went back to our room. Beds are wonderful at Great Wolf Lodge may I add. The next morning was a struggle because we needed to be up and downstairs at 7:30am  to start the morning events. I'm not a morning person at all, so I was a little late. Breakfast was slamming: Fruit, french toast, potatoes, eggs, bacon, sausage and I am sure I'm missing something else.  We then all went to the general session, which my Pastor taught on Communication and Rekindling Intimacy. I have already written about my Pastor in this blog site, so you already know he slammed.  After his class we had a choice to attend making Blended Families work or How to Love Your Spouse while Working it Out. My husband and I choose the second class, as we really don't have an issue with blended families.

I wasn't prepared for the wealth of knowledge I was going to gain from this workshop. It was taught by a couple that didn't attend our church, they were average people like my husband and I. They were not Pastors or Bishops, Bible Scholars, just people who had been married for years. Never judge a book by their cover. Though no titles were before their name, the Holy Spirit used them in such a way to convey what there "Its" were in the Working it Out part of their marriage. They were transparent and real. They shared things that most wouldn't dare tell a friend. It wasn't to air their dirty laundry but to show that their is life after death in a marriage. It really blessed me an my husband. Their story wasn't to fair off from ours and it was just what we needed. Though we had moved on and forgiven and forgotten, it was added confirmation that we were on the right track. This couple shared what their ideas of the roles of a wife and husband are and what Love is. I was impacted tremendously by the class. It showed me my flaws as a wife. It showed how difficult and judgmental I really am.

After that Course we had a choice between Managing Finances in Unison and How to  Persevere in Marriage. We choose to take the Finance Workshop. Again, this work showed my husband some of the things that I was concerned with as the last workshop showed me what he was concerned with.  After leaving this course we retreated to our room because we had a 5 hour break. We cried and apologize. I confessed to him some things that I wouldn't confess to myself. He did the same. We recommitted ourselves to each other. He also mandated that we dedicate Mondays to be our day of Sacrifice. (I love it when he leads me). After our break was over we came back together for dinner and to renew our vows.
My husband and I had the awesome task of leading worship. It was an awesome experience. We renewed our vows and had our second "first" dance. The following morning, we had breakfast, and we broke off to women with women and men with men, to encourage. I don't know what the men did but the women did just that. We joined back together and had communion before we departed.

It was a much needed retreat for my husband and I. It was our first time actually being away with no kids and no family. (Well Pastor was with us, but not with us).  I think we said "I Love You" enough to cover the rest of this year. I'm sitting here smiling just thinking how impossible life would be separate from him. We have come through so much, and fought so hard to get to where we are now; nothing can penetrate us. Don't mistaken that for boasting, this is faith I am speaking on. God has shown us mercy and grace. He has shown us that if we let Him lead he will cover a multitude of our wrongdoing. If we let Him be in the midst of our marriage, we can truly stick and stay.  This weekend only affirmed what we already knew and sometime forget or take for granted. The truth is our destinies are interlocked with each other. We can't get to what God has for us separated. Its imperative that we never lose sight of that.

So today, I just wanted to take the time to encourage those who may be experiencing adversity in your marriage. This is going to sound crazy, but, embrace the adversity. There is something for you to learn about yourself and your mate. More importantly, God is trying to pull something out of you that is laying dormant that He needs active. This not the time to play victim, but the time to stay in the word and trust in God's promises for your marriage. Marriage was never designed for divorce. With that being said, make up your mind now if your are going to stay or leave. If you are going to stay- fight, if you are going to leave- leave. There is no in between. Be encourage God is own your side even if it doesn't look like it.